Human beings are social animals unlike other animals which prefer living in solitary, we humans need a society, we need a companion ship. We are in a constant need of approval, acceptance, admiration and most importantly being loved. Throughout our life span, we seek and give love in various ways and relations like love for parents, siblings, friends, relatives and love for our beloved. While falling in love is easy but sustaining it is quite a task.
You might have got drawn towards liked and loved a person because you found what you want in them, then why do we breakup?? Well, reasons are umpteen, no one enters a relationship hoping they will breakup eventually, but some where we are responsible for the consequences in our life either good or bad.
It would be commendable if we could sustain our relationship throughout all odds, but what if we have to face that dreadful breakup? How are we gonna survive it? How do we do that??
Here are the 6 steps to survive breakups:
Practice Self-love: No matter what, you must love yourself the most. Especially when you break up with someone you tend to become vulnerable, you indulge in self-loathing. It’s when you love and accept yourself, you are freed from the burden of needing someone else to accept you. Even for you to love others you need to love yourself. By doing this you feel and sound confident.
Act detached: Stand back and view yourself as if you were the helper and not the victim, don’t turn your pain into an ongoing drama. The best you could do to yourself is to put yourself in the helpers’ role in the difficult times. This will enable you to get clarity and support. Work toward a tomorrow that will be better than yesterday. Don’t fixate on the past or what might have been.
Experience Spirituality: One might have been born with every possible thing in the world which is appealing and desirable but life still manages to bring difficult problems; how you meet your challenges makes all the difference. The reason challenges arise in life is simple to make you more aware of your inner purpose. How do you find your true self and inner purpose? It’s through meditation! In silence you find yourself. Whether there is a problem in life or not one must practice meditation, it brings great change in one’s life.
Have a Self-check: After all you cannot always hold the other person responsible for the differences that arise in a relationship, can you? The most important thing to do is analyzing the issue; you must have gone wrong somewhere. It is imperative that in understanding the mistakes, with honest intent, we committed knowingly or unknowingly during the relationship, calms us down and soothes us and proves whether or not we are equally responsible for the damage. It is easy for you to come to terms with the breakup if at all the other person is responsible for the entire ruckus. By doing this either you will improve as a person, if it is your fault or you will learn a lesson from that abusive relationship and would become more aware and careful while entering in to a new relationship.
5. Instill positive psychology: It is human psychology to feel absolutely devastated by a relationship coming to an end. You tend to lose faith in relationships and love. As you terribly feel hurt, you would become pessimistic and start disparaging the opposite gender. This very habit of generalizing scenarios and people will kill all your potential opportunities to fall in great love. Cut away from such kind of negative mind-set and give yourself a break.
6. Keep yourself very busy: You are way too worth than a hundred cries. Instead of mourning over the loss of romantic relationship, indulge in exploring life. Find a hobby that is very close to your tastes or go on a vacation with your closest pals or hangout with your friends at your favorite place other than those you spent with your ex or list out your goals and plan to achieve them. Do not think of a moment to be alone; always surround yourself with either family, friends or pleasing distractions.
You might have got drawn towards liked and loved a person because you found what you want in them, then why do we breakup?? Well, reasons are umpteen, no one enters a relationship hoping they will breakup eventually, but some where we are responsible for the consequences in our life either good or bad.
It would be commendable if we could sustain our relationship throughout all odds, but what if we have to face that dreadful breakup? How are we gonna survive it? How do we do that??
Here are the 6 steps to survive breakups:
Practice Self-love: No matter what, you must love yourself the most. Especially when you break up with someone you tend to become vulnerable, you indulge in self-loathing. It’s when you love and accept yourself, you are freed from the burden of needing someone else to accept you. Even for you to love others you need to love yourself. By doing this you feel and sound confident.
Act detached: Stand back and view yourself as if you were the helper and not the victim, don’t turn your pain into an ongoing drama. The best you could do to yourself is to put yourself in the helpers’ role in the difficult times. This will enable you to get clarity and support. Work toward a tomorrow that will be better than yesterday. Don’t fixate on the past or what might have been.
Experience Spirituality: One might have been born with every possible thing in the world which is appealing and desirable but life still manages to bring difficult problems; how you meet your challenges makes all the difference. The reason challenges arise in life is simple to make you more aware of your inner purpose. How do you find your true self and inner purpose? It’s through meditation! In silence you find yourself. Whether there is a problem in life or not one must practice meditation, it brings great change in one’s life.
Have a Self-check: After all you cannot always hold the other person responsible for the differences that arise in a relationship, can you? The most important thing to do is analyzing the issue; you must have gone wrong somewhere. It is imperative that in understanding the mistakes, with honest intent, we committed knowingly or unknowingly during the relationship, calms us down and soothes us and proves whether or not we are equally responsible for the damage. It is easy for you to come to terms with the breakup if at all the other person is responsible for the entire ruckus. By doing this either you will improve as a person, if it is your fault or you will learn a lesson from that abusive relationship and would become more aware and careful while entering in to a new relationship.
5. Instill positive psychology: It is human psychology to feel absolutely devastated by a relationship coming to an end. You tend to lose faith in relationships and love. As you terribly feel hurt, you would become pessimistic and start disparaging the opposite gender. This very habit of generalizing scenarios and people will kill all your potential opportunities to fall in great love. Cut away from such kind of negative mind-set and give yourself a break.
6. Keep yourself very busy: You are way too worth than a hundred cries. Instead of mourning over the loss of romantic relationship, indulge in exploring life. Find a hobby that is very close to your tastes or go on a vacation with your closest pals or hangout with your friends at your favorite place other than those you spent with your ex or list out your goals and plan to achieve them. Do not think of a moment to be alone; always surround yourself with either family, friends or pleasing distractions.
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